My wife passed away when our daughter, Eleanore, was 2, leaving videos for her 18th birthday. Now, as Eleanore’s 18th approaches, I discovered my current wife, Wendy, threw them away. I’m devastated and need help.

Eleanore’s mother, Cloé, and I recorded her pregnancy, planning to show Eleanore at 18. Cloé died in a car crash two years later, leaving me depressed and raising Eleanore alone. Years later, I met Wendy, who has two kids and is divorced. We married when Eleanore was 15.

Wendy gets uncomfortable when I mention Cloé, feeling inferior despite my reassurances. Recently, she asked to see the tapes. Yesterday, I found them missing. Wendy admitted she threw them away, saying I talk about Cloé too much and need to move on. I was furious—these were for Eleanore, who barely remembers her mother. We argued, and I’ve been ignoring Wendy’s apologies.

I’m searching for digital copies to salvage something for Eleanore, who still grieves her mother. Friends say I’m overreacting since Cloé died over a decade ago, but I’m hurt. Wendy’s actions feel like a betrayal, erasing a connection for Eleanore. I’m torn about forgiving her and don’t know what to do.