I’m Richard, 30, married to Melissa for three years. We had a solid marriage—open communication, shared goals. Before marrying, we agreed: no kids. I was firm on staying childfree. A year into marriage, Melissa changed her mind, wanting a baby. I didn’t. I reminded her of our agreement, but she was set on motherhood. Feeling our deal was broken, I secretly got a vasectomy, thinking it was self-protection, not betrayal.

Weeks ago, Melissa announced her pregnancy. I was stunned—my vasectomy should’ve prevented this. Suspicious, I demanded a DNA test without revealing why. She was hurt but agreed. The results? The baby’s mine. My vasectomy failed. I apologized for accusing her of cheating but didn’t mention the procedure. Now, Melissa barely speaks to me, feeling I distrusted her instead of celebrating the pregnancy. She’s mentioned divorce, and I don’t blame her.

I’m stuck. Do I tell her about the vasectomy, risking deeper betrayal for keeping it secret? Or let her think I just didn’t trust her? Either way, I fear I’ve lost her. With a baby coming, I’m lost about our future. Is honesty too late, or the only way to save this? What should I do?